Okay Moms…I want to talk to YOU! We try our best to be the PERFECT MOM. Let’s face it, we aren’t perfect. No matter how hard we try, we can’t be perfect every moment of every day. It can be very disappointing and I know I can put myself down for the mistakes I’ve made as a mom. Sometimes you just have to let go! Being perfect is overrated!
Earlier this month I had an opportunity to attend a special screening of Bad Moms and sit down with Mila Kunis and Kathryn Hahn.
BAD MOMS – In Theaters July 29
In this new comedy from the grateful husbands and devoted fathers who wrote The Hangover, Amy has a seemingly perfect life – a great marriage, over-achieving kids, beautiful home and a career. However she’s over-worked, over-committed and exhausted to the point that she’s about to snap.
Fed up, she joins forces with two other over-stressed moms on a quest to liberate themselves from conventional responsibilities – going on a wild, un-mom-like binge of long overdue freedom, fun and self-indulgence – putting them on a collision course with PTA Queen Bee Gwendolyn and her clique of devoted perfect moms.
Bad Moms Junket
Ms. Mila Kunis and Ms. Kathryn Hahn
July 8, 2016
The Bad Moms Press Junket was like no other. We were pampered and treated like all moms should be treated (more on the press junket later…let’s talk about Mila and Kathryn). Mila and Kathryn walked out to the patio where the bloggers were patiently waiting to interview them. We all had mimosas and yummy treats which Kathryn was wondering where her mismosa was?!?!?! Of course we offered her one immediately…but Mila requested OJ (since she is pregnant with baby #2).
Mila and Kathryn were not only welcoming but amazed at this type of press junket (I was too).
Ms. Mila Kunis: This is amazing, you guys. This is the funniest, cutest thing I’ve ever done.
Ms. Kathryn Hahn: Love it.
Ms. Mila Kunis: You women look fantastic. Have you all gotten massages?
Ms. Mila Kunis: You’re welcome.
Ms. Kathryn Hahn: Ah, you all look gorgeous. Blowouts and makeup. How fun is this?
Ms. Mila Kunis: I want to be a blogger. I can form a sentence. Is that good?
Ms. Kathryn Hahn: Yes, yes.
Talking to Mila and Kathryn was like sitting down with my girl friends. They were easy to talk to and there wasn’t a dull moment. We talked about Kathryn’s new haircut (she got bangs)…and Kathryn made us all giggle with her “Bangs before botox” comment!
Since Mila is a fairly new mother (her daughter is only 21 months old), the bloggers wondered how she used her own life to help as a reference to her role in Bad Moms.
Ms. Mila Kunis: You know, it didn’t take much research. I think we all kind of have someone like that in our lives. I just don’t have that in a school atmosphere. But, I do go to mommy blogs, which is why I asked about where everybody was from. And I think that … 60 percent of them are great. Forty percent out of it ends up being like those moms.
And so, for me, I kind of had a little bit of experience through the blogs that I found thoroughly entertaining. I never took it to heart. Everything I saw I was like, wow, these women are crazy. It’s fascinating. It’s really fascinating because somebody will ask a really simple question like in your opinion, like, I’m getting a new car seat. What’s the best car seat?
And you see, the genuine answers, and then you see the moms just going at each other. And it’s great. I mean for entertainment purposes, it’s great. But for real life, ladies, let’s just all relax for one second and be nice to one another.
But, on a pure entertainment level, that’s kind of how I learned I guess. You deal with it daily.
This movie was funny and extremely relatable. We wanted to know if Kathryn and Mila felt empowered by the script that was written specifically from a female perspective.
Ms. Kathryn Hahn: Well, I feel like had I not been lucky enough to be in this movie, I would have been so excited to see it. And I would have started an e-mail chain and got all my mommy pals. I just feel like, so often moms and mommies in movies are kind of painted with like a saintly glow around them.
And we know that that’s just not the truth. And we’ve got so much more complexity than anyone could–so, I was so excited to just to see mommyhood examined from like the way that we all know it, or at least would love to experience. I know there’s a ton of wish fulfillment in this particular movie. Like, it would be real. So much of it looks like a ball, like this afternoon. Like, how decadent does this feel?
And we deserve it, damn it. Yes. Yes. I have a six-year-old and a nine-year-old, and you guys are obviously the cool bloggers and the chill bloggers. And I found it really, really helpful especially because my parents don’t live in LA.
So, you know, it’s not the same culture where your mom comes over to help you babysit. At least, I wasn’t lucky enough for that. So, you depend on your pals or other amazing women that are going through it or have gone through it or can like–so, thank God. You can’t do it by yourself. And it takes a village. And I think this movie is such an awesome message of the solidarity. Like, we’re all in it together. We can’t just lessen those expectations.
As a mom, we want to know if they had any bad mom moments that they wanted to share with us. (Truth be told…we all have had a bad mom moment.)
Ms. Kathryn Hahn: Okay, my son was maybe a half a year old, not even. I keep making him younger as it goes to kind of make me feel better, crying so hard, did not know…What’s the matter? What’s the matter? I was checking his fingers and toes. I didn’t know what he would–it was like he wouldn’t eat. It was like a mess. Finally changed his diaper, and one of my hairs had wrapped itself around his nuts like five times. Almost castrated my child. That was a good moment, she says, downing her mimosa.
We all laughed…not at the fact that Kathryn almost castrated her son, but because we all have had those types of moments with our own children. We laughed even harder when Kathryn said, “He’ll be thrilled I told it.” Yup…you know your kids cringe every time you tell stories about them…especially the embarrassing ones!
Ms. Mila Kunis: My story, I don’t know if you guys have interviewed Annie [Mumolo] yet, but my story is similar to Annie. So, I’ve only been a mom for 21 months, but it’s pretty good. So, Wyatt was like at seven, eight months old, and I was driving to visit my husband at work. And driving with an eight month old for a couple hours is like going on a road trip.
So, you have to pack all this stuff up in anticipation of everything going horribly wrong with the first baby. Second baby doesn’t matter. First baby, you’re like, oh, my God, everything’s going to go wrong. So, you pack the car up with all this stuff.
And I was like I did it. I put her in the car. Like, I high five myself. I’m driving down the 101. And I was like oh, my God, I’m doing really good today. And he was being really quiet, and I was like, oh, let me look in the rearview mirror to make sure everything’s okay. And I look, and she’s happy as can be, but just not strapped in.
And I was like, oh, fuck me. And I’m on the 101, and she’s just like blah, like fine in her car seat, nothing, no strap whatsoever. And I think I just turned white. It was like what do I do? So, I pulled over. I calmly like crawled in the backseat, strapped her in, continued to drive, I’m never talking about this story to anybody ever. It’s just going to be me, myself, and I, lesson learned. I’m so grateful.
I literally pull up to my husband’s work and just burst out crying. I was like I fucked up. I fucked up. And lo and behold, a year later, like two, three weeks ago, a month ago, I came to get Wyatt out of the backseat of the car, and my husband put her in. And so, I went in to get her out. And we were out, about. And I opened the car door, and she’s not strapped in whatsoever. And I was like thank God. I was so excited. I wasn’t alone.
And everybody’s fine. Everybody lived. It’s only a little bit illegal. But, you know, I made a little bit of a mess up.
Not going to lie…I’ve done the same thing! Sometimes you try so hard to do everything right that it just doesn’t work out.
During the filming of this movie, there were three nights of pouring rain. Everything was flooded outside, so no one could go outside. The house that they used as the home for Amy (Mila) was actually still being lived in by the owners. So they were only allowed to be downstairs in the living room and kitchen. They said it was weird to think that there were people upstairs sleeping while they were taping downstairs.
Ms. Mila Kunis: And so, during this torrential rainstorm, it was 200 plus of us in that tiny living room for three days. We all became really close, and I’m not kidding you when I tell you I was like, God, my neck hurts. Like, three days in, I was like, oh, my neck is just so stiff. I realize I gave myself whiplash. I’m not as young as I used to be. Yes.
Ms. Kathryn Hahn: It was a real ball. I remember I was sick that weekend. But everybody else had got a fever.
Ms. Mila Kunis: Everybody else had got the plaque. We got the plague.
Ms. Kathryn Hahn: Yes, we all got really sick from me. But, I mean forget it. It was hilarious because we were like toddlers. It was all of like a bunch of amazing women like just sugar high because like everyone’s witching hour, we all would grab, you know, sugar and then just dance some more.
Ms. Mila Kunis: And all that wine was juice. So, we just drank a lot of juice for three days.
Ms. Kathryn Hahn: Yes, a lot of very sweet grape juice.
Ms. Mila Kunis: And then danced around. It was so fun.
As a mom, we are constantly growing and learning. We wanted to know what’s something that they learned after becoming a mom that you never would have thought would have been a thing.
Ms. Kathryn Hahn: I think what I didn’t expect was that feeling of that like impossible, like inevitable heartbreak of knowing that how short it is. Like, I didn’t realize. I heard everyone say it’s so fast. It’s so fast. And my mom would say like the days are long. The years are short and all this crap. And it was kind of like I didn’t really know what that meant until I experienced it, and knowing like that he is now–you know, my oldest in nine.
And we spoon still, and I’m like [crying sound] because I just know I don’t have that much more of it. And so, then all the other noise just becomes such nonsense. Do you know what I mean?
Like, at the end of the day, it’s like, oh, who cares? We as mamas, it’s such a short amount of time, their childhood. So, you know, it’s just like I guess enjoy it.
Ms. Mila Kunis: Yes, I think I’ve said this before. But, I think the truest form of unconditional love. Like, I love my husband. I thought that that was to me the most purest sense of love. I love this human being. I love my parents. This is love.
And maybe it was the hormones, but I remember after giving birth to Wyatt that I looked at her, and I was like, oh, my God, I would murder someone for you. And I couldn’t get over truly how much I love this little, tiny, little human that I’ve had only for a couple hours to the point when we were leaving the hospital and I looked at the nurse, and I was like I’m really allowed to take the baby home? And they’re like, well, we don’t want it.
And I was like, oh, okay. How could you not want this wonderful being? Mind you, we all have them, but I think mine’s the best. But, like, the truest, truest, truest, most honest, like, guttural reaction of love I think I never knew until I had a child.
Bad Moms is a tale of a mother getting fed up with her seemingly perfect life. Mila has only been a mom for 21 months, so she is still in the “happy” phase of parenting…but she knows it will happen someday. As for Kathryn, she has a son and daughter. Her daughter is only 6, but she is a “spicy meatball.”
Ms. Kathryn Hahn: She just gives it right back to me. That’s the difference between the girls and the boys too, is the like emotional minefield that is trying to navigate a girl. It’s like you’re a step ahead of me. What are we fighting about?
I’m like what’s going to happen when she’s in high school? So, yes, there have been moments where I am like I need to go. I need to get out of here. Absolutely, I don’t trust what’s going to come out of my mouth. Do you know what I mean? Like, if I’m going to say something that we all regret, so, yes, oh, my God, absolutely.
Time outs don’t work with her, though, because she’s just going to come right back, or she’s like, fine, I wanted to be by myself, or whatever. And she’ll make it her decision. I’m like, oh, my God.
Mom guilt, do you guys subscribe to it or park it? Mila subscribes to mom guilt…not intentionally…but it’s “like that like subscription that you want to go away, but it’s just constantly there.” Both Mila and Kathryn agree that is sucks when they can’t be home with their children. However, they are doing a job they love. Many moms work…it’s a juggling act, but we all make it work. For kids of actors and actresses, they don’t know any different…so mommy working long hours is just the norm.
At the end of the movie there are the mom credits (I don’t want to go into too much detail…but there is a very emotional and very special credit at the end of the movie). There was a lot of laughing and crying on the set during these clips. You will have to wait and see the movie!
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Disclosure: I was invited to attend a press trip to cover the #BadMoms in Los Angles on 7/7-7/8. All opinions are my own.